Non-monogamy is having a moment. It’s everywhere. Podcasts, dating apps, Instagram therapists, Reddit threads, group chats. It’s often framed as more honest, more evolved, more sexually liberated than monogamy. A kind of relational upgrade. And yet, most people who try it struggle. Hard. Not because they’re immoral, or jealous, or “too insecure.” But because they walk into non-monogamy wildly underprepared for what it actually asks of them. In my work as a sexologist and sex