Fisting and size play tend to get flattened into spectacle. People assume it’s about extremes, about how much someone can take, how far someone can go, or how “hardcore” they are. From the outside, it’s easy to reduce these practices to anatomy or shock value. That view is shallow and usually wrong. In my work as a sexologist and sex educator, people are drawn to size play for many different reasons. Some genuinely love the physical sensations. Others are drawn to the power e